Managing 2 lives

How's it going? It's me again. There's just something I want to discuss and hear opinions on. Please if you dont like the thread you dont have to reply, I dont want any drama. I promised the Staff, and I don't want to disappoint them.

Well, I'd like to get straight to the point. The truth is, even though some of you might hate to admit it, is that we actually have 2 lives. Yes, you heard me right, its not a mistake. 2 lives. A maple life, and a real life. It's kinda difficult sometimes, but that's how it is for anyone who is regularly playing this game and spending atleast a few hours a day on this game. The funny thing is, people often laugh at me for playing this game at my current age - yet when they do something childish, they don't laugh at themselves, or take it as acceptable that I laugh at them. The whole thing can be embarassing at times, but I'm angry at the fact that some people refuse to accept other things about people. I have my preferences and the things I like and dislike in life, and that includes Maple, too. I don't get why some people make a deal out of these kind of things, not just Maple. This management of 2 lives can be hard at times, especially when you've got to hide the fact you play Maple from real life friends, and the like. To be honest, there are people in my life I'd prefer not to ever find out I play this game, because it can and will probably appear ridiculous to them. I know, it's not fair to look at it in that way, but go figure - people can be very rude and disrespectful at times. I still call them my friends though, because they help me at other things and they talk to me and are friendly to me. Some things however, like Maple, are better off left unsaid and left in the dark, as they say. Imagine living alone in a dark room without turning the lights on? Nobody would ever find out you're there, but you're actually there. Same thing with Maple.

 

I just wanna say, welcome back!

 

Thanks mate! I missed you too.

 

imagine being in a room, in the dark..playing Maple

 

Welcome back mate Forum isn't the same witout you

 

Welcome back! And I want to say, I agree. Some people you just don't tell that "Hey, I'm playing this 2D MMORPG from like 2003, btw..." because you sense, or know, what opinion they'll have about that.
I guess that's called guilty pleasures, or something...?

 

Here's a tl:dr
You have 2 lives where you hide stuff you do in one life from your other life and vice versa.

 

Well, to be honest, I'm not friends with them. Do you know this situation where you take your computer with you, or someone lets guests come in that you haven't invited? I agree, being friends with people who don't respect my hobbies and interests, and make fun of them, are not real friends. But, I cant always control what people see me doing. Also, none of my family who live with me, or visit me - have any interest in this game. They don't always throw a comment towards my direction when they see me playing, but when they do, it can be very frustrating and annoying. And family aren't people you are "friends" with or "not friends with". A family is a family. I didn't choose my family, I was born with them and grew up with them.

 

Dude, grow a pair and do whatever you like. Yes, people can find it strange, but what do you do then? Well, you could say: “ya I like playing this game, ‘love’ me right”? And then continue with your life.

Also, friends who make fun of you a little, without hurting you, are probably your better friends. Friends who don’t care about you won’t even bother making fun of you playing that game. Don’t blame them for thinking they can make fun of you playing a 2D videogame and not assuming you are almost dieing cuz of it. Same for your family.

 

if they do not accept you as you are and your preferences, they are not friends.

 

I don’t agree with that new “don’t ever jokingly make fun of anyone and respect everything someone else does” thing. But if not seeing someone as a friend just because they joke about your preferences helps, then ofcourse I RESPECT YOUR DECISION.

Just to further explain myself. I’m not talking about respecting different preferences on average. I just think it’s not that strange that some people can find it weird you play a (2d) game for hours a day. I do it too and I get those reactions too, but ya...

 

Friends don't have to agree with everything to be friends, but when it comes to core values, if the difference are too big, you can only be normal friends/ acquaintances, and definitely not best friends.
Yes you can't choose your family, perhaps focus on the things in common, talk about the common interest and avoid the difference.

Playing a 2D game at our age is weird, but we are not merely playing the game, we are reliving our childhood nostalgia.

 

Everyone has skeletons in their closet. Some people in my life know I play this game, others don't.

Most don't care, and the ones who do are mostly rich snobby alcoholics I go to school with so I don't feel bad that they think my hobby is dumb.

tbh, more people are... confused or question why I "work" for the game without pay- rather than why I play it.

 

I appreciate all your advice about this mates. My current solution is simply to avoid sharing this Maplestory hobby with others. I play from time to time, and when I do, I make sure nobody's around. If anyone caught me playing anyways - I just tell them - "this is what I like, and if you dont like it, you dont have to play it".