Hi, I'm new here but I wanted to commend you on this point. Having a routine is super important, and I've noticed it about myself too. These past few years for me have been super chaotic, nonstop changing schedules and the constants can be tough to find (save a few people). I've slowly realized recently now that I've been depressed, losing interest in things I used to love and just feeling tired or non-committal all the time. Hoping to start seeing a counselor soon so we will see how that goes, but atm just feel like I'm floating through it all. Hoping once I can graduate my schedule will be more consistent and that can help but only time will tell. Thanks again for your point, and thanks OP for this thread!
And you imagine or realize that many people are much worse off than you, and your problems are not a problem at all!!! Here we have a war, they often fire such guns that when it lands not even on your street, the house shakes and the plaster comes off the walls. We run to the cellar. It's still bearable, but sometimes it's worse. So relax and think about it.
Of course some people are going to have it a lot better, and some people will have it a lot worse. I have the opposite problem, things in my life are near perfect right now - and like I'm not going around bragging. I've also had it maybe worse, have you ever had time stop for you and you enter into a place where you're able to experience everything and it feels like you're going to be stuck here forever as an omniscient being? and you can't even recognize your phone, like can't even tell it's a device? have you ever gone 60k into debt, totalled two new cars, and got addicted to codeine all at once? I understand war is very bad, but poor mental health is also bad. Even from RUS side it's probably bad. Can't just talk about RUS UKR war all the time that would get very boring very fast. Have to discuss other topics too. But we can discuss that too no problem would love to hear more about it.
Late reply, but just wanted to point out that when it comes to mental well-being, it's not really possible to compare vastly different situations. Pointing out that a person is relatively lucky can do more harm than good. Nobody likes their genuine pain and suffering being invalidated by others. Also, a war in Ukraine should just generally not be viewed as a reason that people in other countries no longer should have mental health difficulties. That said, I'm sorry that you're going through that with the war. You are a very strong person for managing to endure that so often <3
(Most) People usually think of happiness as something to achieve, like reaching an ideal weight or body type. But look what you said, you "went back to square one". Humans are fantastic at adapting so once one achieves "happiness" it will be fleeting because they'll get used to it. So what happens then? Do they stop being happy? Was that goal really what made them happy in the first place? What happens if that goal disappears (e.g. they gain too much weight)? Do they become unhappy? What's the point if happiness can come and go so easily? Happiness isn't a destination, it's a mode of travel. That's not to say you can't be proud of achievements or shouldn't set goals for yourself. That's not to say the moment to moment happiness we experience is any less meaningful. There is evidence that acting happy will make you happy. If we think of happiness not as something to achieve but something to be then I think we'll find ourselves in a better place mentally. Some things make it difficult to be happy, like actual depression or incredibly difficult circumstance, but we should still try because in the end we'll end up happier than before.
Came back home after finishing my undergrad overseas. Within a half year, a trip to Australia got botched, my pet dog got a serious injury from falling, and I lost two relatives to cancer. To add to that, I was working on research and graduate school applications while everything went down. 2022 lowkey kinda sucked for me. I submitted most of my applications and now I'm just taking a huge mental break for myself, gaming and stuff.
Remember in life you can't run away from problems. Sometimes you have to act brave and strong even though it hurts on the inside. Time is the only cure to everything, 2022 is over lets make 2023 ours!
