I hope people are okay with this kind of discussion. Well, you see... like many other people, I've tried looking for women on online dating websites. There's only one problem - they are simply not answering. I've sent many, many messages to different women on these websites, but they don't seem to be interested. It's quite difficult to see good results from these websites. Anyone else have ever registered on a dating site and can share how it was for them? Thanks
I kinda started to realize that by myself, the woman is probably looking at my pictures and doesn't even bother reading what I wrote about myself in the profile.
For most, especially on Tinder/Bumble, that is the case. More likely than not girls will overlook your bio and swipe based on your photos alone (physical attractiveness/social status), and for those who potentially would read it, there's the physical attraction barrier that comes first. There is no reason for them to care about the about me of a guy they aren't even physically into, so looks are undoubtedly the determining factor in opening the door (getting a match/message/message back). If you are physically attractive even those girls who put up the stupid "I don't use this much so don't get offended if I don't message back hehe livelaughlove" front will often be messaging you/messaging back with obvious interest.
And this is quite sad, you know? Judging a man by the way he looks. I can be the most ugly person in the world, and have a very good personality deep inside, etc. which cant be seen until you get to know me better.
It works both ways, really. Would the personality of a girl matter to you if the physical attraction wasn't there? It's an essential component of almost every relationship, and even more so (arguably entirely) for hook ups/casual sex which is what a lot of these apps/sites are used for. You're not fucking her personality.
Well, you see... not all of these apps and sites are meant for the arrangement of doing sex. Personally, I myself have never gotten into dating sites and apps for the purpose of sex. I'm just looking for a very normal girlfriend, and not just one I can fuck, and never talk to her again after that, or turn her into my personal "sex slave". There are sites and apps which cause the external looks to be the main thing, like Tinder for example. But generally, even places which don't emphasize that, women are still looking at the pictures as the first thing that interests her. So, maybe I actually look good, and the problem is not with the way I look - but the problem is actually with possibly low quality pictures which made me look ugly? You see, I remember back when I messaged a lot of women and got 0 replies - was when I had amateur, selfie-made pictures taken in my home. Maybe that was a bad impression? Now that I think about it, it could be.
I think generally different apps cater to different types of people but even then it's not true throughout so you will still find a serious girl on say tinder. Despite that it's still good to use apps targetted for your purpose which is more serious and something more long term. If you posted what you put as your photo and your bio description it'll help us guide you better.
I'm uncomfortable posting a picture of myself on these forums, but I can describe what kind of photo it was. The photo was taken in my home, as a selfie(myself holding the camera and taking the photo), with a very thin, "shy" smile. I don't often give a big smile in a photo. Is smiling an important thing in this case? Perhaps taking a photo outdoors was better than at home? In the bio, I just wrote a short line saying I'm looking for a serious relationship and looking for a honest, mature woman. That's it. What'd you say needs to be improved?
Don't think girls are generally a fan of selfies. The standard protocol is - picture with animal - picture outdoors / doing some activity - with friends - picture with you dressed better Bio should be in line with your pictures and sell you as someone that's not boring. Not sure if it's different in israel
I'll keep these things in mind, thanks. For an outdoor picture / activity, what location or activity should be suitable for a picture? I do a lot of activities, as you might have imagined. Israeli girls are very selective and closed minded, in generally. But this advice can still work out. Here women care a lot also about how good your education is, and if you have a good career. But I never mention these things unless she asks. I'll try to keep the bio relevant to the pictures uploaded. Is it a good idea to also write about my education and employment?
Just put in a little quip about what your interests are. If you just list that you want a serious relationship and an honest mature woman, you'll come off as dull and kind of creepy. Just keep it nice and simple, and mention that you're not just looking for a hook up.
Looks matter in a relationship, no ifs & buts. i dont waste time busting my ass off at the gym for years, analysing my now decent tier body in the mirror figuring out how to get more abs to show, defined arms & thick symmetrical chest to achieve an aesthetic physique for nothing. besides, relationships are way overrated anyway. Single life is much much better fuuuark ive got a taste of putting in long hours of hard work to achieve a goal on royals- spending hours upon hours every day for the past year selling leech which culminated in my 110b funded drk whiting same level sharp eyed NL at krex. feelsgoodbrah.jpg same feeling in real life when i work hard in the gym eating right and culminating in tinder success fuuuuuuuark one day brahs one day
Great advice mates, thanks. I'll try what you all said. If things still don't work out, maybe dating sites aren't for me. I'll find a chance to also hang out with a few friends and try to catch some women that way. Again, thanks for your input on this. I also suggest to everyone else, not just myself. That if you aren't into dating sites, they aren't the only option in the world to find relationships.
