Hello Royals community. Due to reasons I will not get into, my life has been on a hold for the past 3 months. I had to drop out of college, and stop doing physical activities. Due to that, my life has turned into pretty much me looking for ways to pass my time, which ends up in multiplayer videogames, that give me basically nothing(since ladder isn't really something you can push without practicing, and it takes too much physical effort). Since I assume a lot of players are college/uni students, or people that have a pretty standard day to day life(which is a good thing), I would love to hear about your life. hobbies shows or movies, things you like to do, anything that helps you get through the week. Personally I can't partake in anything related to sports, but I would still love to hear about it if you are into it. This post has nothing to do with maple, it's basically me asking for help since I don't want to fall into depression, which would make my days even more meaningless. Thank you for your time everyone. Y'all are awesome.
Three months really isn't that long. I'd recommend seeing a therapist or psychiatrist if you need advice from a professional. Even one or two sessions could change your outlook. As for what I do to pass time, other than work, include piano, calisthenics, cycling, weightlifting, recreational drugs, weekend long porn sesh, grocery shopping, cooking, DotA2, long walks with or without music, and socializing with random people on the street. Take this opportunity for self improvement, whatever you wanted to learn/do, within capabilities and reason. If you're unable to do any physical activities, some activities that I'd personally recommend are: playing musical instruments, programming, learning a new language, drawing/colouring, or prepare for your future studies. Make sure to get out of the house at least once a day. Vitamin D deficiency can exacerbate depression during the darker months.
We are social creatures by nature so make sure you try to have meaningful conversations with people. This includes friends, family, and strangers on the street. Humans are not meant to be alone, its a survival instinct which has manifested itself modern society. You can not have a fulfilling life if this need is not being met. That being said, it is also important to have goals/hobbies that give our life purpose. Life has lots to offer and is not meant to be walked through like an empty tunnel. If you haven't already, do anything that interests you and do not let others judgements stop you from doing it. If you want to learn how to knit, do it! Who cares if people will call you a sissy for it. You are enjoying it, and that is what matters. Also exercise and eat healthy(er). Ironically it gives you more energy and you will feel more confident. You dont need to go to a gym if you dont like it. Find a way to stay active and have fun. Try join a sports league or pickup basket ball, soccer, etc. Try rocking climbing dancing, yoga, cross fit. There is a lot of ways to be active, find a way to have fun with it. Lastly, invest in yourself and learn to be selfish sometimes.
On the subject of vitamin D deficiency, our generation (especially the ones frequenting these forums) are almost certainly going have some degree of this without being overly judgmental. It is not unreasonable to take a daily supplement if you feel up to it (1000 IU or 25 microg colecalciferol daily) as this can make a modest but potentially significant difference in energy levels, motivation etc etc. However, the experience you describe is not something that can be "fixed medically" with antidepressants and supplements per se. When I feel down, stressed and such I often like to map out the experiences, memories, thoughts and feelings that I believe contribute to my state of mind at the time - bearing in mind this can be a painful process at times because in many ways you are 'reliving' the experience. On the whole I tend to find that this helps me logically identify predisposing and precipitating factors that may have contributed as well as any protective factors I have. It then allows me to develop strategies to think... and act differently. Easier said than done, but that is a summary of how I go about these things. As others have echoed it's always important to talk with others about what you're going through; sharing the experience itself is a powerful thing and the process I find really connects people. As for my life... I have a full time job and at times I often feel like my life at the moment is work, eat, sleep, maple in some combination. I capitalise on my annual leave at every opportunity to travel both regionally and overseas and I find that travelling, meeting old (and new) friends and eating nice food from different regions are some of my greatest passions in life. The many people I have met up with from Royals can be testament to how much of a travel foodie I am It's been a blast of a year this year and I would not wish for anything different looking back. It's my first year being formally in the workforce and as busy as it gets I enjoy my job thoroughly. As for other things I like to do during the normal week... I love teaching (is that weird?), I enjoy playing my piano, I do jigsaw puzzles if I want a moment to myself, and I like making desserts. I also read way too many novels, and sleep way too much on my days off. If you feel like you want to talk more about things, I'm more than happy to chat. A listening ear can often be therapeutic in itself and I feel it's the least I (or anyone willing) could offer. Don't ever feel like you're wasting anyone's time or that you're attention seeking by asking for help; it is a privilege to be privy to someone else's experiences in life and often really inspiring.
sry im a bit late to reply. You can only have a real sense of progression in life when you face your struggles and come out of it better and stronger than you were. If your idea of "progression" is bigger house, better car, better job etc then you're kidding yourself. Everything that you do that is not seeking the truth of who you are is basically passing time. so i guess in this regard you can take comfort in knowing that whether or not you're your life is on hold, you're passing time regardless with 100% efficiency, just as everyone else. You're afraid you might become depressed but what you're doing is making a thing out of nothing essentially. you're suffering your imagination. The simplest and most profound thing you can do to feel the sense of progress you want to feel, unconditioned by materiality and social construct is to sit in silence and watch your thoughts without any judgement whatsoever. minute at a time, through thick and thin. the length of success in this endeavor is directly proportional to you sense of progress and purpose in life, independent of anything outside of you, though it wont be immediately apparent at first when you're beginning this journey. You made a seemingly serious statement/question? in your title, so i obliged to reply. Hope this helps ...but I suspect it wont at this moment but later in life
I find I have two recurrent requisites to feel happy. A daily, tangible thing to work at (school, job, etc.) People I can emotionally connect with, usually peers. If I can have these two things in order, the rest pretty much falls into check. On the topic of staying positive, giving or receiving advice can be a bit of a wash. A lot of things I read can be hard to relate to. For example, my "stay positive" advice is to appreciate that my life in a civilized country, irregardless the specific circumstances, is objectively pretty good compared to what people in third world countries have to deal with. Some people in the world have much greater struggles than I do and can even find happiness. Anyway, hopefully that sort of comparison makes you feel a bit better but maybe not. But for the real advice, Only you know you, your own life circumstances, and what you truly want. Try to listen to your own voice above all else. You'll probably find that understanding yourself and getting to where you want can be a long journey, but is perhaps the most important one of all.
