If you have ever been kicked from something or have been internally hurt for whatever reason, what do you do to move on and not let negative issues get to you? Idk why but a lot of this sounds unecessary and not serious at all since this is the internet, but I want revenge. But I'm also 23 so what's the point in holding grudges and all that childish shiet. Might as well stay in the dark and let it overcome me. The only place I feel good is in my dreams. Maybe that long term sleep is what I should consider. Wbu guys, what do you usually do when this happens to you?
Personally, for me, it helps me that I find an opportunity take a quick rain check, trying to acknowledge what I am exactly currently feeling, is it fear, anxiety, frustration, anger or pain. I know I'm quite bad in expressing to others or problems in an emotional state, so I will try to take a breath, making sure that is my rational state is doing the decision making. Secondly, there is certainty in life that we will get hurt, and sometimes we might want to enact pain onto others. In this state, I will acknowledge that the feelings I am feeling are valid, and then move on to what is a legitimate response to it, will doing this make me satisfied or whether is actually a short term fix? More often than not, using increased escalation, violence or anger is rarely the right response. Lastly, I would like to highlight the latest point you made, that the only place I feel good is in your dreams, that you are considering long term sleep. This is an absolute red flag to me, whether you know it or not. It signals you feel that there is something is missing from your life or you think you are not achieving something. Try to pin it down, make it real and concrete. If you ever need help, then please know that there are many qualified people who would like to help you. In the US, calling 211 or going to their website is a free referral source. They have providers who will see you regardless of your ability to pay. Just as you would see a doctor when you are sick, you deserve to take care of your mental health. United States: 1-800-784-2433 or text 741741 anytime https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
First i make sure the reason im feeling shit is not because of my intake/lack of. So i drink plenty of water and start drinking green tea, eating healthy. Or i fast for a day or two to reset myself (juice/water allowed) especially when im overcome by negativity. Fasting doesn't just work on the physical level. I take a hot shower and treat it as a meditation, imagining the warm water is cleansing away negativity. if you are still feeling bad then you haven't surrendered to the bliss of long hot shower completely. You can imagine the water as being light too as you close your eyes. Then after a hot shower, the icing on the cake- a cold splash or few to seal the deal. It resets you mentally, as well as your immune system. i haven't had a cold since i started this and i have 2-3 bouts of it per year. Fasting is the way for me tbh. I already shower everyday because it puts me in a good mood without fail so im all the more ready for shit to be thrown my way. If its really bad, i take more hot showers even cold. Meditation for when it really gets heavy, Its the best remedy. You can ask me what you want to know. "Might as well stay in the dark and let it overcome me. The only place I feel good is in my dreams. Maybe that long term sleep is what I should consider" You can run away from it, but it will eventually catch you up, even in your dreams (accounting the full implication of your use of this word). Do you really want to get stuck in your dreams long term when that happens? No matter how you try to escape, it will catch up to you. because YOU are IT. It is simply a matter of perception how you move past it. Perceive things about your situation differently because perception is reality . The only place you have control over it is here, in this reality, where you dont have to endure it alone and if you feel you have no-one, count me as one. We're on this ride together and i happen to not be doing as bad as most. by no accident, mind you. Darkness exists but so does the Light. How will you see it when you're letting yourself be overcome by it? The choice is always in your hands and there is no force outside capable of taking that away from you, unless you forget. well, here is that reminder. You are the hero of your own story, Live it, my man! Recreate yourself as many times as it takes until you've become one with your ideal self; One who owns himself. Sorry for the essay lol, i could ramble on but feel free to talk to me whenever.
I just withdraw from people. I like to be by myself when I'm upset. Primarily, I don't want to trouble or burden other people but I also enjoy the solitude. It's calming. Ever went out on a drive when you're upset? Especially at night, I've loved driving east into the California desert, not having any sort of destination except to be somewhere I'm unfamiliar, yet know the simple way back home if I chose. Windows down, music loud in your ears, going the speed limit of course, never speeding, and never blaring music if at a stop light out of consideration for other people around. It's lovely. Freeing. And I really enjoy helping other people. I like who I am as a person and I feel better when I continue doing things that are natural to me, being thoughtful, polite, respectful of others. I feel better when I hold the doors open for people, when I greet the employee in a cheerful tone of voice and thank them properly before I take my leave. I enjoy helping people online and taking an hour or so to type up a comprehensive wall of text of my advice to the best of my knowledge in case they may find it helpful. I like being alone but also doing my utmost to be kind to strangers I'll never see again. Just by myself without any social pressure, obligation, expectation, or coercion to be the person I enjoy being. And so I feel better because I feel like I'm a genuinely nice, kind person and it's not something I pretend to be. So my self-esteem improves and with that, my mood does too. Losing track of time just reading reddit or watching YouTube is nice too, as is just going to sleep. Gets your mind off things. But I think being happy with who you are at the end of the day is the way to have a happier life in general. Be who you want to be, treat others how you want to be treated and all that. It's nice.
as tempting as it may be to answer to someone who hurt you by overreacting or getting back at them, why would you want to show that they still have power over your emotions even after what they've done? don't fight toxicity with toxicity. the least you should do for yourself is to not care and to stop overthinking it. believe in the side of people that they choose to show you and save yourself time and trouble by not questioning it. i used to see the good in people, i forgave easily, tried begging and praying for better days until it became obvious to me that the ones who aren't supposed to be in your life will always disappoint you no matter what you do. learn to accept the situation for what it is, the person for who they are, and let go like you're setting yourself free as well. the sooner you find peace of mind and take control, the faster you'll realise that you don't need validation from anybody. instead of wasting your time trying to prove that they made a mistake by abandoning you, you could be devoting your attention and loyalty to someone else who is actually worth your time. play a game, clap some noobs, blow off some steam, vent your frustrations to a random discord e-girl, but don't dwell too heavily on something that no longer serves you if they leave, let them go. if they hurt you, laugh at the audacity. the best form of revenge is living your best life. 2020 is next week so move on because your time is invaluable
